When Your Child is a Picky Eater at Thanksgiving

Tips for a More Enjoyable Holiday

The holidays bring family, traditions, and, of course, lots of food! But for many families of children with sensory sensitivities, feeding challenges, or selective eating habits, Thanksgiving dinner can feel more stressful than festive.

At Adventure Pediatric Therapy, we understand that eating is about so much more than food - it’s about comfort, positive sensory experiences, and connection. Here are a few ways to help your child (and your family) enjoy the season without pressure or meltdowns.

1. Keep Familiar Foods on the Table

Even if you’re visiting relatives, include one or two “safe” foods - these are your child’s preferred foods that they will ALWAYS eat. This could be something simple—like plain rolls, crackers, or a specific brand of mac and cheese. Having something familiar can make your child feel included and safe, even if they don’t try the turkey or stuffing.

2. Practice “Thanksgiving Foods” Early

If your child is open to exploration, start introducing new foods or smells in small, no-pressure ways before the big day. Let them help in the kitchen - mixing, smelling, and touching ingredients. Exposure without expectation to eat helps build comfort and curiosity around new foods.

3. Talk About What to Expect

Many children benefit from predictability. You might talk through the day ahead - who will be there, what foods will be on the table, and what they can do if something feels overwhelming. A social story or short visual schedule can make a big difference.

4. Keep Sensory Needs in Mind

Thanksgiving gatherings can be loud, bright, and full of strong smells. Offer a quiet space where your child can take a break - we often call this a “sensory corner.” Noise-canceling headphones or familiar comfort items (like a favorite toy or blanket) can be helpful throughout the busy day.

5. Focus on Connection, Not Consumption

Remember, mealtimes are about more than what’s on the plate. If your child joins the table, engages in conversation, or participates in any way - this is a HUGE win! Small moments of connection and shared joy are what make the holidays special.

6. Take the Pressure Off

Avoid forcing bites or drawing attention to what your child is (or isn’t) eating. Keeping mealtime positive and low-stress helps children build confidence and trust around food at their own pace.

A Note from Our Team

If feeding challenges or sensory sensitivities make family meals difficult, you’re not alone. Our occupational therapists at Adventure Pediatric Therapy can help you understand your child’s unique sensory and oral motor needs, and support progress toward happier, more relaxed mealtimes—holiday or not.

Happy Thanksgiving from all of us at Adventure Pediatric Therapy!
We’re grateful for the incredible families we work with every day - and we wish you a season full of joy, connection, and grace for yourself and your child.